On Saturday night, I hosted a call to kick off the 21-day new year embodiment challenge I posed to our audience.
It was great to reconvene with long-time members of The Amorati, and to also meet some new faces. This is going to be an epic January, and I can’t wait to hear about everyone’s results!
Today, a few notes on the topic of embodiment, ‘primal energy’, and attraction.
If you missed the start of the New Year Challenge, you still have time to join us. Register here.
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1. If you ask my mind, it also doesn’t like doing embodiment
The mind is so much faster in its thinking, the body is so slow. I get the impression I’m moving faster when I’m living in my head: how many books and videos can you consume? I think I’m getting smarter so quickly!
The problem with the mind is that it doesn’t really manifest many of its ideas. Yet the body is always manifest: even if you don’t like it, your body is real. If your quality of embodiment makes a shift, it’s a change you can bank on.
When I come to the mat at the end of the day, I usually make a deal with my mind: just a little practice, and let’s do it softly. You don’t need to do that much, I tell myself.
It’s a great trick. Soft, subtle embodiment practice usually ends up being more powerful than those sessions where you thrash your body to death with loads of pent-up energy. If you ask me afterwards, the mind is always glad that I did it.
Most men I know seek a form of nourishment from women. Her smile, her care, feels like love. In the absence of women, many of us pick up different habits to compensate for our lack of nourishment. Embodied practice is the best habit, because we learn we can generate the feelings we miss inside ourselves.
Such that our needy craving for women—even p*rn—becomes far less.
2. Men seem to want ‘primal energy’: they want to feel their impulses, their power and sexual passion
In each of the world’s varied cultures, the local testosterone-boosting witches brew always sells out.
Who would we be if we weren’t anxious, or locked within a nice-guy cage, or simply overwhelmed and overthinking about work? Who is the tiger within us—and how do we wake him from his slumber (or his boredom, or his anger)?
Well, from the mind you’re only going to pontificate about that tiger. Moving your body—the better you get at keeping your awareness inside your body as you move—you get to feel the real vibrations and energy currents of your primal nature.
At first, you might be afraid of the ancient, amoral darkness that’s in there… the flashes of flesh-ripping desire that pass through; the involuntary ways that your body knew how to fuck long before you had a mind to reflect on the process.
When we talk about ‘primal’ energy, we often forget that our ‘primal experience’ (meaning first experience—our reality before the thinking mind comes in and analyses it) is sometimes very vulnerable. Our deep sorrow and pain lives in the body too—the tiger’s wounds that make you flinch and freeze in daily life. And by moving with these vulnerable parts, we discover our own ability to heal.
What I love most about the modality I teach is that it makes you not dependent on your coach or your therapist to dig out those stuck emotions. A huge chunk of your ‘inner transformation’ you can create for yourself.
3. A few of you said that you have done plenty of embodiment work before, but never in a way that included visualisation
Haha, yes! What we’re doing here is a magical spell.
There are many dimensions in the body and mind to explore.
When I began exploring practices to ‘become more present’, my life changed. I became so much more connected to others. And I came home to myself, as people say. I stopped worrying about my self-image or whether I’d achieve my made-up ambition before my manufactured deadline.
But by becoming more present, I stopped thinking of the future. In a way, as I became present I lost some power to project out in time, to dream up plans, to shape my life. Sure, it was freeing to feel the now, but in other ways I fell into a jungle, a swamp, without orientation.
Time went a little like this:
I think the surrender experiment is a good phase—to float on the winds of life and see what the universe has to teach us. It helps many people escape from the matrix of their mind.
Yet when I focus so wholly on the now, I seem to lose propulsion… I lose the needed vision to build great things in the world. If I’m forever following the flow, I lose touch with the beauty we can create when we give all of our will to a vision. Women relate more to me when I live from flow, but their devotion to me is aroused when I ground myself in a vision, and I create.
Our present-day spiritual culture obsesses over the now. A vaster sense of manhood remembers deep past and deep future.
To make the most of visualisation, you don’t need to obsess over material things.
The colour of your book cover doesn’t matter, nor does the model of your red Ferrari, nor the centimetres on your dream girl’s chest. You can simply move towards more joy. Embodied visualisation techniques have been used for millennia to summon the virtues of the Gods.
4. Embodiment is remedy #1 for restoring vitality and attraction
Look, you say, I just want to get back in the game, enjoy dating like I used to, and meet a great girl. Why do I need embodiment?
You don’t. I’m not saying that all the world’s great lovers have extensively explored their bodies. Men and women have gotten together long before things like somatic practice and mindfulness existed.
But many of you want to rekindle a sense of vitality, mojo.
Many of you report having lost yourselves amidst career and relationship, and are now dedicated to restoring the best of who you can be.
And there is a force of gravity in every intimate relationship that squishes partners too closely together… we build up stress, collect irritation and the debris of unresolved fights, and we inevitably lose the spark.
Of all the ways I know to clear out the mental overwhelm, to come back to our sexual fire, and to our vulnerable feelings of affection for the women around us, doing one or two short, well-worked embodiment practices each day is the best remedy I know. Not just to address a crisis moment, but as a sort of ongoing maintenance. I suffer when I go without it.
In dating, to put it simply, men who are disconnected from women are simply disconnected from something in themselves.
When I made the ‘journey’ from living in my mind to living more in my body, I began always feeling connected to women. I didn’t have to talk my way into connection anymore… women and I simply began feeling each other—from across the table, from across the room—and we knew exactly what to do next.
Anyway, if you’d like to join us for the New Year Embodiment Challenge… a challenge of self-connection, release, and visualisation/manifestation… there’s still time to jump in and catch up.
The group we’ve gathered is sincere and strong, and there’s excitement for the 21 days ahead!
The recording of the full live workshop is available as soon as you sign up, and you’ll get access to the WhatsApp community too.
Join Embodied Visualisation here. And restore your creative fire.
In fact, if enough of you sign up, I’ll probably re-run the full two-hour workshop… so you’ll get a top-up of live practice and energy, along with extra recordings and resources 😉
I hope to see you inside!
~ Jordan
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P.S. I’m throwing out a last call also for my holiday coaching discount.
The price will go up on at 11:59pm on January 6th (Pacific Time).
To book a 1:1 session with me (even if you take that call a week from now), go here and get it now for 50% off.
Maximum 2 sessions at the special price, per person.
We’ll be back soon with some new content for 2025.
