8-15 June, 2025

Online

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A new phase of my work is around the corner, and I’d like to offer you a chance to join an early workshop to explore it.

This has to do with a theme I’ve been fascinated by for years: sexual fantasies.

For some people, fantasising is an innocuous and harmless passtime, which has little to do with their real lives. For others, the content and practice of their fantasy-life would be a source of deep shame—neither their partners or greatest lovers ever find out what’s there.

What’s common to sexual fantasies—also porn, if you use external images for this inner play—is that we typically go there in a dissociated state. Our imagination, or fantasy-land, is a place we escape to. How interesting, that perhaps the richest erotic domain of our lives remains disconnected from our embodied experience.

This is the core of the work I’m looking to offer: what if we drew the content, the power, and the energy of our dissociated fantasies back into our bodies? Is there wisdom we can gain from the perspectives, the characters, and the dynamics we fantasise? Are there inner feelings, traumas, or unmet needs in our fantasies that we might touch into, and heal? What if we could bring the magnetic allure we had to our fantasy content… and bring it into us, as part of our presence?

Many men today state they’re lacking virility, libido, or ‘lower moving energy’. My sense is we don’t lack these things at all: we simply do other things—dissociated things—when we feel these energies. One outcome of this workshop is to re-integrate the libido: to unfold these fixed, repetitive images that absorb our psyches, and bring their power and their imagination back home.

Would you like to know more?

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What is a Sexual Fantasy?

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Already, the term ‘sexual fantasy’ will have meanings in your mind. For the scope of this workshop, we work with erotic images in a number of ways—and the vital energy they can provoke. For it is the place in the psyche where the image lives, that the libido is just beneath.

Do you have… or have fascination for:

• Indulgent, daydreamy, fleshed-out sexual fantasies (which you might use during masturbation, or while walking around your day-to-day)?
• A bucket-list of sexual experiences that you have not had yet, but you feel you can’t fully relax until you’ve had them?
• A favourite porn video (or situation, or actress), that hits a deep vein in you that none others quite do?
• A peak, sexual life experience you sometimes turn to as a libido-charging memory: perhaps early memories of your relationship, or a night with the ‘one that got away’?
• Romantic daydreams with a ‘limerant’, heart-based quality (including obsessions or ‘crush’ energy)?
• Eruptive images in your day-to-day: not fantasies as such, but glimpses of women or body-parts that stoke a sudden sense of desire?
• Onlyfans or other online erotic content, that you’d like to clarify or overcome?

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What I propose here is an intimate, small-group exploratory workshop, limited to just six people.

While there are a number of warm-up exercises, the meat of this workshop consists of a live session with me, in front of the group, where you discuss and explore your prime sexual fantasy—both the conscious and unconscious aspects of it. This includes the visual and sensory images of your fantasies, associated feelings, sensations and flows of energy, plus the meaning you draw from what happens.

As you might imagine, this can be vulnerable and confronting. We will work carefully through any psychological obstacles, shame, and so on, before we bring attention to your fantasy. But the group, as a whole, requires a daring leap, and sense of pioneering.

I intend to create a radically non-judgmental, at-times humourous space. I guarantee a sense of wonder and exploration of your fantasy, no matter the content. And, after 15 years in this work, I’ve seen and heard a range of content!

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Benefits of Unfolding Sexual Fantasies:

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This is not only for the pleasure of self-understanding. When we make our hidden erotic habits conscious, we can:

• Reduce our draw to pornography,
• Understand needs, longings, and wounds: pain that became eroticised along the way,
• Integration of sex & heart: soften ‘creepy’ energies and a stuck, hard gaze,
• Feel more embodiment & vitality in the body,
• Deepen empathy and intuition for masculine and feminine energies,
• Normalise and understand the roots of kink, fatal, or fantastical sexual attractions,
• Unlock and integrate hidden libidinal charge that’s been draining away,
• Heal sexual behaviour (porn, daydreaming) that have become trapped or circular, that you sense drain energy away from real-life intimacy.

And yet…

… this is the first rendition of such a fantasy-work group. I’m quite keen to see what this does for you.

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When, Where & Time Investment

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Liberating Sexual Presence is a 4-part workshop:

• Part 1 — Sunday 8^th June (4 hours; Live Meeting)
• Part 2 — Monday 9^th – Friday 13^th June (1 hour/day Home Practice)
• Part 3 — Saturday 14^th June (8 hours, Live Meeting)
• Part 4 — Sunday 15^th June (4 hours, Live Meeting)

All online, via zoom.

Top-secret. Unrecorded. Private what’s app group provided.

Investment: $495

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There is some great reading in the world about the nature of our sexual fantasies, particularly the Nancy Friday series for women. The consensus is that male sexual fantasies are everywhere—in porn, cinema, advertising, etc.—and that women’s sexual fantasies are ignored and left to the side.

However, I believe women have been invited to understand their erotic selves through attention and inquiry and vulnerable exploration—while this depth of empathy and curiosity is never shone into the psyche of men. We are seen as predatory, but never vulnerable. We are yet to face the wild edges and complex valleys of our fantasy landscapes…. and even in the case of our more vanilla thoughts, there is no public conception on the tenderness, love, or ‘soft’ power within men—nor the sacred potential within the dark.

I sense this is a new conversation in the world of men: a conversation looking to illuminate the truth, and not the clichés, of our sexual psyches. But here, we go a step further: to truly liberate and integrate the vital, life-force energy that so many of us, for so long and out of shame and out of fear, have been hiding in the dark.

Sign up here.

I am limiting this to just 6 places for the first round.

Should you have any questions, email me.

I hope to see you inside!

~ Jordan

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